Q&A: How to deal with my father?
Question by Summerdrink: How to deal with my father?
Hi, I’m having alot of trouble with my father. First off, I’m not someone who had the best school parcour and I’m not proud of it. Right now I’m in University. I’m also a gamer and like tv alot so I spend alot of time on these. Now my father doesn’t care one bit about me unless its something related to school. As an exemple I can come to him and say : “I’m so happy my boss gave me a raise”. And he would reply: “All that doesn’t matter its what you do at school that is important.” or “I need money to buy an exerciser to lose weight because I have 20-30lbs and I’m not someone who has time to go to gym” and he would reply to that : “I’ll give you money for anything related to school but not for that”. Also he is annoying as hell as everytime I want to watch tv he would sleep in the living room and start snoring making the show or whatever I’m looking at a horrible experience to a point where I have to wake him up every 2 minutes and tell him how mad I am that he is constantly doing that instead of going to sleep in his bed. When we are on the table he eats like a cow making disturbing noises that now forces me to eat in a different room and getting my mom to yell at me because I don’t eat with the family. Whenever I play a games he goes in a retard motion to say that only retards hit buttons on a controller and play games. Most of the conversations he has with me are related to school or related to the doctors he met during the day that told him how much salary they have and how many cars they own and more. Now he is at a point where he constantly tells me that I will never become a successful man. I’m very mad and from time to time when I’m really pissed by what he’s telling me, I go and grab a pill of Codeine left from my tooth extraction surgery prescription so I can become completely dazed and unaffected by his presence or by what he tells me.
What should I do?
Best answer:
Answer by Kate
Well, Codeine and other opiates do help the situation, but I gotta tell ya, that gets expensive after a while ^_- lol
Anyway, why don’t you just confront your dad and ask him, “is there something wrong with me that you don’t like?” Point out the fact that you are still young and you’ve got plenty of time to meet with business clients, talks about cars, and do ‘real man’ stuff. Being female, with a very ‘manly’ dad, I get treated in a similar way often. Point out the fact that you ARE in school and not out here smoking dope, stealing shit to get by. Because then he’d never see you at all and he’d have no son to be proud of from the smallest amount of anything.
STOP TAKING THOSE PILLS. You’re words are going to have to be the solution for this problem, NOT PILLS. You are definitely going to have to talk to both of your parents. Let them understand that you want to make them proud but at the same time you want to pursue your own goals in life. Life at home isn’t supposed to be a pain in the ass, that’s what the rest of the world is for. You’re going to have to get tough Billy, this is your life. Take control.
ok. first. PILLS ARE NEVER THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEMS!!!!!!!!! they can kill you!!!! tell your mom and if she doesn’t agree show her proof. if it keeps going on, i would strongly advise you too talk to someone that you know and completely trust other than family and maybe they can help you out some more. hope this help
First of all, there was another question by a 13-year-old kid who admitted telling his mother that he wished she were dead.
You answered him by saying that SHE had to treat HIM with respect. To a kid who told his own mother that he wanted her to die! This says something about your attitude, no offense.
Wow, your father is horrible. He actually wants his son to do well in school. He objects to his son playing video games so much. And he actually wants his family to all have dinner together in the evening. What a monster — lock this guy up and throw away the key right now.
(Note: that was sarcasm, in case you didn’t notice…)
Maybe your father says you won’t be successful because your attitude toward school sucks, and because you avoid things you don’t want to face by heading for the bottle of codeine.
Well, sorry, but he’s right — you’re not going to be successful, professionally or personally, if you let that attitude carry on too much longer.
Seems to me that you posted this question here looking for sympathy. Well, it ain’t coming from me.
Your father isn’t perfect, but I hardly think that snoring in the living room or “eating like a cow” qualify him as the Worst Father of the Year. Instead of worrying so much about your father’s eating habits or his falling asleep with the TV on, how about worrying a little more about what YOU do?
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Well, it sounds to me like your Dad may be a bit controlling and it’s O.K. for him to be and do what he wants but, not anyone else. He wants them to accept him for who he is and how he acts but, he is not willing to do the same. I have noticed that some parents don’t like their kids to be on the computer, gaming, etc. a lot because they really do not understand it. They didn’t have all those things as kids. Also, I know that their parents gave them heck about the things they did that their parents did not do or didn’t not have access to when they were growing up. Each generation says, “I don’t know what the world is coming to . These kids are our future, they don’t know how to work, they talk back, etc., and it’s scary”. HA! I bet that went back hundreds of years. Things change and we should all change along with it…that’s how I think anyway and I’m pretty darned old. Ask your Mom if his noises disturb or bother her. If so, both of you politely ask him if he could refrain from making those noises when he eats because it bothers both of you. How does he treat your Mom? The same way, pretty much, that he treats you? You are old enough to stand up and let him know you will not tolerate his behavior towards you. Let him know you love him but, you would appreciate being treated with respect. It is O.K. to disagree but, it is not O.K. to act the way he is. I hope things work out for you!! JOSA